Today I realized that one of my biggest struggles with not spending money, is stopping myself from buying gifts. In this post I told you guys about how I'm doing a really strict Spending Diet right now, so that I can work towards paying off my debt.
So far, things have been going pretty well. Even with an unexpected deposit screw-up by my old landlord, I'm still doing OK - I'm actually tracking everything I spend money on, using my allowance every month on anything that's not on my "NEED" list, and I am saying "no" to extracurricular activities (or at least not spending money when I attend them).
However, on my "WHAT I WILL NOT SPEND MONEY ON" list is something that I'm already having trouble with. GIFTS.
I don't know why this one is so hard for me to avoid, but I've already slipped a few times by using my debit card for gifts when I'm only supposed to be using my "fun" cash for them (if I even give them at all).
I just love seeing someone's expression when they get something wonderful. I love feeling like I made them happy. I love showing them that I care! When I take the time to make handmade gifts I love that the best - because I really put my heart into it, and I know that my friend or family member knows that too. (PS - if you ever need great handmade gift ideas, check out Design*Sponge. I love it!)
The problem though, is that even handmade gifts cost a little money. I came up with a creative gift idea for my friend's wedding (I can't say who or what b/c she may be reading this), but it still cost me about $20 for the supplies alone! I know it'll be more meaningful because I'm making it personal, but still, it cost me money. And I said I wouldn't spend money on gifts until I paid off my debt. *DOH!*
I'm not really sure how I can get around this. I hate the idea of showing up to a close friend / family member's birthday with nothing to give. I can already feel the guilt and disappointment in my heart! So sad! I probably just need to get over it, as I know that these people will love me no matter what - and that's what's important. I guess part of my problem is that I want them to know that I love THEM and that's why I feel as though gifts are so necessary...
...but in the scheme of things, I guess they're not necessary at all. These people know I love them. I tell them all the time. I show them that I love them with my actions, and my support. That's a kind of a gift, right? Honestly, if my friends & family couldn't give me gifts for Christmas or my birthday or something, I'd be A-OK with it. I have everything a girl could ever ask for. Sure there are things that I might "WANT", but it's all material stuff anyway. It doesn't matter in the long run! What DOES matter is spending time with people you love... not money.
Man, I hope reminding myself of that will make me better at this!
All photos from We Heart It.